Pain Of A Lover

A Common Story:

“I was a carefree young boy and used to solve mathematics problems…(till engineering 2^nd year)…

I met a girl fall in love and started giving suggestions to others for love, became love guru… (from engineering 3^rd year to few years back)…

AND NOW I AM TRYING TO HIDE MY LOVE PAIN, YES I BECAME PHILOSOPHER.

Kindly don’t read……. “If you haven’t loved someone truly”.

Few days back, I was sitting in CCD with some beautiful girl, we had very strong conversation and at last she asked me “your x is very lucky”….that moment I smiled, went back to my home and cried….

I met my x after more than 1 year– she asked if she will get option she will only choose me (its long story but i am not in hers list)… to keep her heart, that moment I smiled, back to home and cried….

I was sitting in office cafeteria with a casual friend and on sip of tea we shared some our past secrets. After listing mine secret She said “interesting, you are the person whom should I date”… that moment I smiled, walked out from cafeteria back to my desk and cried...

Bengaluru, BMTC Volvo….. I plugged earphone…adjusted my ear piece and singer sung something

“Dahleez pe mere dil ki,

Jo rakhe hain tune qadam,
Tere naam pe meri zindagi
Likh di mere hamdam,
Ha seeka maine Jeena jeena kaise jeena………”

Don’t know song touched my heart or not but tears fell on the floor of Bus, the girl sitting next to me in Volvo smelled my tears instead of smelling my deo and asked me “if, I am alright ?”….i smiled with wet eyes and replied “I am good”...I remembered her whom I loved….meanwhile next song automatically played and I caught only one line of next song “guzarta sa lamhaa ek daaman bhar gaya”…as singer is trying to point something and I got stuck…

You must have heard about Break-up…but a lover suffers more after breakup…some wise man said “never add your personal and professional life”…my personal experience says personal life is backbone for professional life….I have been team lead almost for more than 1 year now and I have seen youngsters in my team suffering and fighting in professional life because of problems in personal life…to lead a happy life, one must need to manage both……!!!!

Every relationship start with love later ends with breakup, drama, pain and bla..bla.….at last he or she ends up saying guy/girl is responsible for everything….the biggest pain in life is self-realization that “I have destroyed life of someone special. I am sure no one feels good after knowing that you are the reason for someone's destruction”….it always pains…

At last what I say: "Zindagi do pal ki"...who knows "Kal ho na ho"...Life is a full of surprise. Who knows when and where surprise is death. ...So live every moment, life is too short to be unhappy no matter what.... So,Better to live a happy life no matter what. A happy life lived is most remembered.... Always remember, you are not old till you can breath, give time to yourself come out from pain and enjoy the fresh romance...

Silence can be a strong weapon to convey your pain… A relationship is not just about love or affection or care, it is about level of sacrifice and pain you suffered to keep relationship alive…Let your x go… nothing can be best than Sacrificing your love for your own love. “ishq sacha wahi jisko milti nahi manjil”.!!!

……too be continued .

Dedicated to all who says “Hamari Adhuri Kahaani”

TRUST

Today generation:-
I don't trust any men, you know all men’s are same (voice of women)...!!!
Bhai ye women’s sab ek jaisi hoti hai, inpe trust karna hi nahi chaiye (voice of men)....!!!
Question to all those men and woman who said above sentence at least once in their life -please answer me… Why because of one, you imagined all are same and if everyone is same why the hell you tried all..?? If you have answer and may prove your point you can ping me in whatsapp and i can give you surety next i will publish your story soon...!!! If you can't than please don't say above words again...!!

What is TRUST???(A question asked by my friend)
I know you have answer....I too have and I replied "A word which we all use in daily life"...at least 10 Times in day. Nowadays, TRUST is nothing else than a word..!! We forgot the meaning of it...we don't respect it anymore....we don't care...!
Trust is -
1.When Indian-Cricket team goes to play world cup and we sitting in home hope MSD won't make us down...that hope is trust.
2. When a father throws a kid up in the air and catches him back...the laugh of kid is trust.
3. When a girl walks with a guy in mid-night or sits in park with him...that smile of girl is trust.
4. When a mom stays far from son/daughter and eagerly waits for his/her call…that wait of mom is trust.
5. When one blindly loves other…that love is trust.
6. When a beautiful marries a stranger and go to his house… that belief is trust.
7. When a sister and brother care for each other... that care is trust.
8. When a student writes an exam and fails and writes it again...that try is trust.
9. Early morning when i stepped in a park, on the front gate every day i found a helpless man- no money, no identity, no individuality, not even enough food and shelter, nothing to cheer up....but still he breath… that breath is trust.
10. A youngster fall in love he or she apparently ditched by opposite sex and cries full day/night...that tears is trust

In above all cases you know whom we trust...it's individual; yes it's not we... It's me and you…

We all trust someone someday, but somewhere in life we all lose that trust..!!  Now, question is whose mistake? 
It's not about whose mistake....it may be anyone mistake...! But why it happened? , its cause either your choice were wrong or you yourself is wrong.....! In maximum case we point others rather pointing ourselves......!!!


What kind of person we can trust???
The simple logic to trust people is: - Initially, Never trust the one who is superior/elder to you. Such type of person will leave you in between. Never trust the person who is less/younger than you, he/she will give their helpful hands to someone breaking your promises. Try to trust the person who holds a same spirit, desire, choice and dreams like you. Don't trust anyone easily. Let the time reveal you the real them. Anyone makes a mistake and that's vital. Even I do mistakes and i’m a very caring person. Whenever a person become a part of your life, trust them, but not with your feelings. Trust them with your mind; trust them because that's the right thing to do, not because you feel that you can trust them....!!!!

My philosophy says...I still don’t have answers to those questions, which I already answered. Cause in the journey of trust i may failed while trusting people or people hurted me the way they wanted… which seriously made those moments memorable for my entire life...I have to live with those unfortunates trust on them... Nothing to hit on, it came back on me.  “What makes us live??”It’s only TRUST which keep us ALIVE...Trust is Future...!!!

God Bless "Untrustworthy human"


P.S- This was due for long.Thanks Shilpa for motivating me to write on this topic...!! Stay tuned, my upcoming articles "Pain of A lover" and "Getting married”